Description Of Parts Therapy
Integration for Habits, Conflicts and Decisions
If you’ve done any work with smoking cessation, weight loss or any other form of habit control, you’ve probably had an experience similar to this…
You reach a good level of trance, give wonderful suggestions, everything goes great as far as you can tell. The client calls you the next day and tells you they smoked as soon as they left your office.
Why did they smoke? Why didn’t your suggestions work?
Maybe you start to feel bad, lose your confidence, question the effectiveness of hypnosis. “Maybe I’m just not good enough,” you say to yourself.
Now there are lots of hypnosis instructors out there that are still teaching based on an old, authoritarian dogma. They’ll tell you that you didn’t have a deep enough trance. They’ll tell you that you needed to repeat your suggestions more or put more emotion into them. Their entire approach is about “forcing” the client to accept your suggestions.
But you’re smarter than that. You know there’s got to be a better way.
The problem with simple, direct suggestion for smoking cessation, weight loss or other habits is that you’re setting your client up to battle with themselves internally.
In a trance, we suggest that a client eat better or stop smoking. Well, the part of them that enjoys smoking or motivates them to eat they way they do now is listening and saying “That doesn’t sound too good to me. I think I’ll resist this suggestion.”
So you’ve got part of the person behind you 100% and part of the person “resisting.” What comes next – a battle!
Let me ask you this. Let’s suppose you were involved in a negotiation between two parties. Would the best approach be to label one of the parties as “bad,” and start suggesting that it be gotten rid of? Well, that’s what you’re doing if you’re using simple, direct suggestion to try to break a habit.
While direct suggestion adds power to the side that wants to change the habit, there’s still a battle a brewing in the back of the client’s mind (where the real power is). Will you be successful? Maybe, maybe not. Will the client get easy, elegant change? Probably not. Truly, you’ll rarely be effective with this kind of client unless you get all the client’s motivations on the same page and working toward the same goal.
What a Bank Manager Tells us about Habits
I remember having a conversation with my bank manager (I’ll call him Dan) several years ago. We were sitting at his neatly kept brown desk, in a busy bank lobby. He wanted to understand more about my hypnotherapy practice. Looking across the desk with a bit of a shaky voice (I think hypnosis scared him a little), he asked, “What is it you do exactly?”
“Dan,” I asked, “If you direct your arm to move with your mind will it move?” He looked and me strangely and said “Yes, of course.” “How about your leg? Do you control that too?” I got the feeling Dan was a little sorry he’d asked me but he played along. “Sure.”
“Well,” I asked, “Have you ever made up your mind to do something, maybe to start exercising or be more polite to people or eat better or stop smoking and then not followed through?”
Of course, he had. Almost all of us have had the experience of deciding determinedly to start some new healthy, productive habit or stop some destructive one – and then dropping the ball. For Dan it was exercising.
“Well,” I said, “if your mind controls your arms, legs and the rest of your body and you made up your mind to exercise, why didn’t you?”
Poor Dan had no answer for that question. In fact, he’d never thought of it that way. How can people consciously make up their mind’s to do something and then not carry it out? Don’t we have control of ourselves?
People have multiple motivations going on at the same time – some of them at cross purposes.
I explained to Dan that human beings are not carved from a single block of stone. We may have more than one motivation present in us at a time. We may be conflicted.
- Yes, we want to exercise but we also want to relax and take it easy.
- Yes, we want to eat food that is good for us but we also may have incredible enjoyment out of eating that special something that’s soooooo good (you know what it is).
- Yes we want to stop smoking but we get something out of it.
I told Dan that I helped people to get those conflicting motivations all lined up so that they could live longer, better, more fulfilled lives. That’s what parts therapy is all about – getting all the motivations and resources of a client lined up and headed for the same goal.
Remember a time in your life when things were going incredibly well; almost magically. Progress was effortless and you didn’t have to motivate yourself – you acted without even thinking about it. That’s the experience of being fully congruent – all your inner motivations lined up toward one goal.
Now, you can get easy to follow, instructions to align the inner motivations of your clients. Discover the little known secrets of powerful parts therapy.
Effectively blast away even the most stubborn habits
What you’ll learn in Parts Therapy
In Parts Therapy: Integration for Habits, Conflicts and Decisionsyou’ll learn how to use Parts Therapy to eliminate ANY habit
- Nail Biting
- Tobacco chewing
Plus, you’ll learn the laser focused techniques for helping clients develop robust positive habits…
- Eating healthier
- Positive attitude
And, learn secrets for helping people get through those big life decisions;
- Should I move or stay where I am
- Should I change jobs or careers
- Should I stay in this relationship or move on
- How “parts” are born
- How to recognize inner conflict
- The difference between sequential and simultaneous inner conflict and why it’s important
- How to “chunk up” to get conflicting parts of a person to agree to a change in behavior
- Guidelines on whether or not to induce formal trance
- How to gather information to make your parts therapy session go smoothly
- The secrets to ultra-quick change – how to avoid getting bogged down in a session
- How to gain agreement and integrate parts so that a client gets the elegant behavioral change
About Keith Livingston
Keith Livingston is one of the world’s top trainers in personal change & development technologies. Author of over a dozen NLP & hypnosis training programs, he’s trained hundreds of hypnotists, hypnotherapists & NLP Master Practitioners. Keith is a former President of the Washington State Chapter of the National Guild of Hypnotists, a Certified Hypnosis Instructor with the Professional Board of Hypnotherapy and is certified as an NLP trainer by the International NLP Federation. He also has certifications as a specialist in pain control, weight control, smoking cessation, and painless childbirth.
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